I'll probably repeat this too often, but it's worth repeating because it's so important: the BDSM community is a welcoming community, and good studios make their guests feel at home. This means more than simply providing a “safe space” where consenting adults can live out their fantasies: a hotel room can provide that. It means creating an atmosphere where you know you are with like-minded people who want you to be part of their scene.   This doesn't happen automatically: it has to come from the top (so to speak): from the person or people in charge of the studio. Ideally, the domme isn't just someone on a studio's webpage of dommes, who books a room at the studio when she needs it and only turns up at the studio when she's sessioning with a guest, but is part of a team.   The good news is that - as far as I can tell, as a guest who's not in the studio for more than an hour or two - this comradeship is being created at Berlin's Atrium stu...

One of my fantasies is to be a urinal, kneeling or sitting with my mouth at the level of a urinal basin, either in a line of people in a similar position, or hunkered down between real urinals. I would be naked, or wearing humiliating, girlish panties, and would be somewhere where people are ready and willing to use me. Might I be able to actually live out this fantasy at Lab.Oratory in Berlin?  (One housekeeping note: as of January 2025, the entrance fee to the Lab.Oratory is €14.) Berlin's most extreme gay sex club has a room with a row of standard urinals. Between each one there is enough space for a person, and in fact the club owners have placed a beer crate between each urinal for someone to sit on. When I arrived, some crates were already taken by keen piss-drinkers, but one in the middle was free, so I tried sitting on it for a while, and then removed the beer crate so that I could sit right down on the piss-covered floor. This was better, firstly bec...

  Mistress Bella has joined the team at the spanking new Atrium studio and I was excited to be heading for a first session in the new venue. In fact, I had been fantasising about what facilities it might have - what would I include in a BDSM studio? One of the features I had missed since the closure of Avalon was "The Corridor" - I always loved the walk from the changing room to the dungeon, because it was through a semi-public space, and an extra frisson was added to the humiliation. If I were to design a BDSM studio, it would have a shared space like the Avalon corridor, somewhere where you can be seen if that is your desire, or your identity protected if you prefer. Mistress Bella had told me the studio was easy to find, at Wilhelm-Kabus-Str. 21-35. In fact, there are two properties using that address, their forecourts separated by a fence. The first entrance I came to looked nothing like the picture she'd sent me. Confused, I cycled a bit further, and f...