I'll probably repeat this too often, but it's worth repeating because it's so important: the BDSM community is a welcoming community, and good studios make their guests feel at home. This means more than simply providing a “safe space” where consenting adults can live out their fantasies: a hotel room can provide that. It means creating an atmosphere where you know you are with like-minded people who want you to be part of their scene.   This doesn't happen automatically: it has to come from the top (so to speak): from the person or people in charge of the studio. Ideally, the domme isn't just someone on a studio's webpage of dommes, who books a room at the studio when she needs it and only turns up at the studio when she's sessioning with a guest, but is part of a team.   The good news is that - as far as I can tell, as a guest who's not in the studio for more than an hour or two - this comradeship is being created at Berlin's Atrium stu...

One of my fantasies is to be a urinal, kneeling or sitting with my mouth at the level of a urinal basin, either in a line of people in a similar position, or hunkered down between real urinals. I would be naked, or wearing humiliating, girlish panties, and would be somewhere where people are ready and willing to use me. Might I be able to actually live out this fantasy at Lab.Oratory in Berlin?  (One housekeeping note: as of January 2025, the entrance fee to the Lab.Oratory is €14.) Berlin's most extreme gay sex club has a room with a row of standard urinals. Between each one there is enough space for a person, and in fact the club owners have placed a beer crate between each urinal for someone to sit on. When I arrived, some crates were already taken by keen piss-drinkers, but one in the middle was free, so I tried sitting on it for a while, and then removed the beer crate so that I could sit right down on the piss-covered floor. This was better, firstly bec...