I'll probably repeat this too often, but it's worth repeating because it's so important: the BDSM community is a welcoming community, and good studios make their guests feel at home. This means more than simply providing a “safe space” where consenting adults can live out their fantasies: a hotel room can provide that. It means creating an atmosphere where you know you are with like-minded people who want you to be part of their scene.   This doesn't happen automatically: it has to come from the top (so to speak): from the person or people in charge of the studio. Ideally, the domme isn't just someone on a studio's webpage of dommes, who books a room at the studio when she needs it and only turns up at the studio when she's sessioning with a guest, but is part of a team.   The good news is that - as far as I can tell, as a guest who's not in the studio for more than an hour or two - this comradeship is being created at Berlin's Atrium stu...

One of my fantasies is to be a urinal, kneeling or sitting with my mouth at the level of a urinal basin, either in a line of people in a similar position, or hunkered down between real urinals. I would be naked, or wearing humiliating, girlish panties, and would be somewhere where people are ready and willing to use me. Might I be able to actually live out this fantasy at Lab.Oratory in Berlin?  (One housekeeping note: as of January 2025, the entrance fee to the Lab.Oratory is €14.) Berlin's most extreme gay sex club has a room with a row of standard urinals. Between each one there is enough space for a person, and in fact the club owners have placed a beer crate between each urinal for someone to sit on. When I arrived, some crates were already taken by keen piss-drinkers, but one in the middle was free, so I tried sitting on it for a while, and then removed the beer crate so that I could sit right down on the piss-covered floor. This was better, firstly bec...

  Mistress Bella has joined the team at the spanking new Atrium studio and I was excited to be heading for a first session in the new venue. In fact, I had been fantasising about what facilities it might have - what would I include in a BDSM studio? One of the features I had missed since the closure of Avalon was "The Corridor" - I always loved the walk from the changing room to the dungeon, because it was through a semi-public space, and an extra frisson was added to the humiliation. If I were to design a BDSM studio, it would have a shared space like the Avalon corridor, somewhere where you can be seen if that is your desire, or your identity protected if you prefer. Mistress Bella had told me the studio was easy to find, at Wilhelm-Kabus-Str. 21-35. In fact, there are two properties using that address, their forecourts separated by a fence. The first entrance I came to looked nothing like the picture she'd sent me. Confused, I cycled a bit further, and f...

Lab.oratory is a gay club in the same building as the famous Berghain nightclub. It has a reputation for offering quite hardcore events, such as cruising in total darkness and fetish parties. One of these regular events is called “Yellow Facts – piss and fuck party”.   Now, I’m not interested in sex with other men – not least, I am too scared of picking up something nasty at a place like Lab.oratory. But I am a piss-slut. I love drinking piss, having piss enemas, being pissed on.   So far, I’d only enjoyed water sports in sessions with dommes, where the rules are clear. But what would it be like at a gay fetish club? I did my research, and found little information online outside the Lab.oratory’s impressively uninformative website, and some of what I did find turned out to be wrong (for example I had read somewhere that on arrival I would have a number written in marker pen on my shoulder – this was a source of anxiety, as explaining that at home would be rather diffi...

One of my pleasures is to go one further than needles, and to bang nails through my cock and balls, or at least the skin. Perhaps it is given added excitement by the knowledge that such harmless consensual acts are illegal in my home country, the United Kingdom. What happens when Mistress Bella gets hold of a hammer and nails The first time we tried it, Mistress Bella nailed my foreskin and scrotum to a piece of wood. As we started, and as she picked up the hammer and sterilised nails, I asked if she’d done this before – her slightly evasive reply elicited a follow-up query, and she then conceded that she’d, er, “watched” it being performed… Anything to raise the level of interest on the part of the guest! Of course, she delivered exquisite pain with great care, as always, and the nails only passed through the skin, not the glans or the testes, and the minor wounds cleared up within a day or two. These harmless activities are reminiscent of the infamous “Operation Spanner” case , i...

Many people dream of starring in a porn video. And something that used to involve lots of technology, camera operators, editors and the like, can now be achieved with nothing more than a basic smartphone. Certainly, plenty of subs are making use of these new possibilities, filming themselves wanking or doing painful things to themselves (or both), before uploading the images to sharing sites.   Moving beyond these mainly amateurish homemade efforts, it is far more exciting to be included in a video produced and posted by a professional dominatrix. In fact, it is not only exciting, it is an honour to receive such recognition.   I never expected to see videos or images of myself online. I assumed I wasn’t fit or attractive enough. However, since becoming a slave of Mistress Bella, she has made and posted several videos of our games. For an exhibitionist like me, that is really exciting. My only red line is that my face should not be recognisable.   So, a year or...